The NYCEFT Video Podcast

Ep 1 - Brief History and Mission of NYCEFT with Zoya Simakhodskaya

Zoya Simakhodskaya, Executive Director and Vice President of NYCEFT, talks about the early days of NYCEFT, gives a quick history of how the organization was founded, and walks us through the journey and evolution of the organization from its founding to today’s projects and programs. Zoya and Jeff discuss some of the most prominent topics and conversations that the community is engaged in currently, most importantly, diversity and race, as well as upcoming workshops and training opportunities.

Ep 2 - Hold Me Tight Workshops with Regina Bordieri and Carolyn McIntyre

What are “Hold Me Tight” workshops? What are “demon dialogues” and “negative cycles”? Jeff Fine hosts Regina Bordieri and Carolyn McIntyre, who have developed a unique virtual format of the popular Hold Me Tight Workshops for couples. Regina and Carolyn provide a brief history of these educational workshops originally designed by Sue Johnson, who is credited with discovering the science behind love and bonding. The workshops include structured exercises (done in breakout rooms) that teach couples how to identify the negative cycles that keep them stuck in rigid patterns that block their connection. Couples learn how to move from blaming each other to treating the negative cycle as their common enemy which they can defeat together. Carolyn and Regina highlight their emphasis on creating a safe, deshaming, and supportive environment where there is a high ratio of assistants to participants. They also talk about some of their expanded material such as touch, intimacy, and sex, and family messages about emotional communication.

For more information about the Hold Me Tight Workshops, visit

Ep 3 - Covid Related Hate and Violence Towards Asian and Pacific Islander Communities in the USA

In this episode of the NYCEFT Podcast, Peggy Wu, PhD, psychotherapist/mother/professor, and Chinese American, shares her professional insights and personal experiences regarding the recent increase in Covid related hate and violence towards the Asian American and Pacific Islander (AAPI) community in the US. Further, as a marriage and family therapist, professor at John Jay College of Criminal Justice, and board member at NYCEFT, as well as one who regularly hears from clients who are traumatized by the effects of anti-Asian sentiment, Peggy is ideally positioned to talk with us about this disturbing trend. Peggy first helps to clarify who is considered Asian, and who within the AAPI community is being targeted. Peggy describes the most urgent concerns of people from the community, including not feeling safe, increased anxiety and depression, and feelings of isolation. Other topics discussed include the pain and challenges for Asian adoptees with white parents, mix race couples, and the “model minority” myth. Peggy encourages people who are impacted to first identify and give space to their emotions so that they can adequately process their feelings. Then she recommends organizations that can offer help and support. Peggy also discusses how therapists can reach out to clients with cultural sensitivity, and emphasizes that those in the AAPI community do not have to deal with their feelings alone when experiencing hate and violence.

Resources for Asians and Pacific Islanders:

Asian American Federation

NYC Well:

I Hollaback:

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