Breaking Up but Still Connecting: An EFT Approach to Healthier Breakups

  • 01 Mar 2024
  • 10:00 AM
  • 02 Mar 2024
  • 5:00 PM
  • Balance Arts Center 151 W 30th Street, 6th Floor, Walter Room, New York, NY 10001
  • 9


  • Before February 1
  • Before February 1
  • For Shabbat-observing members of the EFT community


Breaking Up but Still Connecting: An EFT Approach to Healthier Breakup


    Intermediate Level | Live, In - Person

12 CE Credits (only those registered for two days are eligible for CE's)

Not all couples who come to therapy want to save or fix their relationships. More importantly, breakups do not have to be traumatizing or detrimental; it also does not have to become the biggest failure in life. As couple therapists, we need to be able to help these couples break up with compassion, appreciation, dignity, clarity, and self-worth as they move through this painful and scary process.

This workshop will focus on three challenging issues in couple therapy:

1) How to help couples who are indecisive or have different goals: One partner wants to end the relationship and the other wants to save the relationship; 

2) How to help couples go through the three stages of EFT to end the relationship while maintaining some level of connection;

3) How to help therapists work with ambivalence in the relationship

Methods of presentation will include didactic teaching, experiential exercise, video demonstration, and discussion.

When: March 1 - 2, 2024

10:00 AM - 5:15 PM EST 

Lunch 1:15 PM - 2:15 PM

(6 hours each day, 12 hours in total)

Where: Balance Arts Studio

151 W 30th Street

6th Floor, Walter Room

New York, NY 10001


  • Early member registration (before February 1) - $385
  • Early non-member registration (before February 1) - $400
  • Regular member registration - $400
  • Regular non-member registration - $450
  • Early career therapists (less than 3 years)/psychiatry residents/graduate students/full agency workers, VA employees - $275
  • Friday-only registration (plus two hour online case presentation scheduled separately) - $250 - For Shabbat-observing members of the EFT community

All registrants will be sent an invoice from NYCEFT's Paypal.

 dr. Ting Liu

    Ting Liu, PhD, EFT supervisor and trainer, Founding Director of Asia EFT and Clinical Director of Philadelphia Center for EFT. Ting Liu, Ph.D., is a certified EFT trainer, supervisor, and therapist. She is licensed in Pennsylvania as a Marriage and Family Therapist. She maintains a Private Practice in Wayne, PA. Dr. Liu received her doctorate in Child Development and Family Studies with a specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy from Purdue University. She completed a postdoctoral fellowship at the Center for Family Intervention Science at Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia. Her publications include an EFT casebook in Chinese and six books she has translated into Chinese in the fields of MFT and EFT. She has also published several journal articles on different applications of EFT. She is currently involved in several outcome studies examining the cultural applicability of EFT to diverse populations. Dr. Liu offers EFT training, supervision, and case consultation to therapists in the Philadelphia area, as well as to therapists in Beijing, Hong Kong, Istanbul, Shanghai, Shenzhen, Singapore, Taipei, Kuala Lumpur, Chiang Mai, Seoul, Ukraine & Iranian Community.

Course ObjectivesParticipants will learn how to:

  • Apply strategies to help indecisive couples navigate critical relationship decisions
  • Organize and structure therapy sessions to lead couples through the three stages of EFCT during the conclusion of their relationship
  • Recognize and de-escalate problematic cycles of interaction in couples undergoing a breakup
  • Analyze and interpret breakup behaviors through attachment theory
  • Describe approaches to overcome impasses encountered during breakup couples therapy
  • Analyze relationship dynamics and patterns in the process of breaking up
  • Apply EFCT principles for guiding couples through breakup stages

  • Describe cognitive, emotional, and behavioral reactions during the breakup process 

  • Apply approaches to managing and resolving ambivalence in couples therapy

This course is for Psychologists, Social Workers, Psychoanalysts, MFTs, Counselors and other mental health providers who work with couples and families. 


Day 1: March 1, 2024; 10 AM-5:15 PM

  • Morning
  • 10-10:45  Breakup behaviors: an attachment perspective 
  • 10:45-11:30 Cognitive, emotional, and behavioral reactions to breakup
  • 11:30-11:45 break
  • 11:45-12:15  EFCT for a healthy breakup 
  • 12:15-1:15 Working with couples who are breaking up: stage-1 of EFCT
  • 1:15-2:15 lunch 
  • Afternoon
  • 2:15-3:00 challenges for clinicians 1: working with intense emotions
  • 3:00-3:30 challenges for clinicians 2: staying away from contents and refocusing on process
  • 3:30-4:30 video demonstration: stage-1 of EFCT
  • 4:30-5:15 discussion

Day 2 March 2, 2024; 10 AM - 5 PM

  • Morning
  • 10:00-10:45  challenges for clinicians dealing with ambivalence
  • 10:45-11:30 challenges for clinicians 3: dealing with disagreements between partners 
  • 11:30-12:30  Working with couples who are breaking up: stage-2 of EFCT
  • 12:30-1:15 Working with couples who are breaking up: stage-3 of EFCT
  • 1:15-2:15 lunch 
  • Afternoon
  • 2:15-3:00 connecting through shared loss: a stage-2 enactment for a healthy breakup
  • 3:00-3:45 dealing with therapeutic impasses
  • 3:45-4:30 video demonstration: stage-2 of EFCT
  • 4:30-5:00 discussion and QA

If you have any questions or complaints, please contact our administrator at

For those members of our EFT community observing Shabbat, we understand that workshops scheduled on Saturdays are not possible for you to attend. As NYCEFT, we are aware of this need and are working to address it. For example, we have added Friday-only option for this workshop. We are planning to rotate NYCEFT-sponsored trainings on various days of the week as part of our commitment to increase access to these trainings.

Certificates will be available following course completion. CE's will be provided to those registered for two days and attending live. The event will NOT be recorded.

12 Continuing Education Units with APA approval are provided by National Marriage Seminars:

Satisfactory Completion

Participants must have paid registration fees, signed in, attended the entire seminar,  and signed in after lunch to receive a certificate. Failure to sign in or out will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available.

National Marriage Seminars of America is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. National Marriage Seminars of America maintains responsibility for this program and its content.

Counselors/Marriage and Family Therapists/Mental Health Counselors Nearly all Professional Counselors, MFT, and Mental Health Counselor boards accept APA, including certain states for social work. Check with your board to be sure.

Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations occasionally. We attempt to stay on top of the most recent changes. If you have questions about a course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly for a definitive answer.

Also co-sponsored by R. Cassidy Seminars 

In addition to the APA-approved CEU’s provided through the National Marriage Seminars of America, participants can receive “Certificate of Completion” through R. Cassidy Seminars. Participants would need to inquire with their state education boards if the “Certificate of Completion” would satisfy the requirements for CEU’s.R. Cassidy shared with NYCEFT in an email that the feedback they "have received from clients is that although we don't have the CE language we once had, attendees have in many cases been able to submit their certificate from us to their state licensing board for credit as proof that they have attended a course with a designated number of hours of attendance."

Disability Access - If you require ADA accommodations please contact our office 30 days Or more before the event. We cannot ensure accommodations without adequate prior notification.

Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations often And while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions Or concerns about this course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.

Cancellation policy: If notified in writing of canceling by February 14 fee is refunded minus $50 administrative fee.  Registrations canceled after February 14 are not refundable.

Disclosure statement: There is no conflict of interest or commercial support for this program
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