Working with ADHD-Impacted Relationships through the EFT Lens

  • 18 May 2023
  • 9:00 AM
  • 19 May 2023
  • 5:00 PM
  • 136 East 24th Street 2nd Floor, New York, NY 10010
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Working with ADHD-Impacted Relationships through the EFT Lens

With Alexine thompson-de benoit and ben Kneubühler

ADHD is a condition that affects the executive functioning part of the brain, which manages our working memory, ability to focus, ability to plan, stay organized, finish what we started, and regulate emotions, among other things. For ADHD affected individuals, those difficulties can be a real impairment in many areas of life, including their relationship. Research shows that those individuals have less satisfying relationships, in general.

It is not uncommon for them to be undiagnosed until later in adulthood, and by then, the relationship has been deeply affected. Their partners often complain that they are not paying attention to them, that they are disorganized, inconsistent, emotionally unstable, and unreliable. They often feel forgotten and unimportant and end up carrying a big part of the load, while complaining, blaming and criticizing their ADHD partner. This too will deeply affect the relationship.

Realizing that ADHD plays a role in the relational dynamic is crucial to transforming anger into empathy, and developing strategies to better manage its impact and stay united against it.

In this course, we will look at the manifestations of ADHD and how they impact emotions, and the love relationship. We will learn to track the ADHD-impacted cycle without pathologizing, and look for the often surprising primary emotions that can be so well hidden by ADHD partners. Clips will be shown of ADHD and non-ADHD partners sharing their felt experiences of the relationship, and the therapist working with tracking the cycle, reflecting, validating and assembling emotions.

We will look at how to work with ADHD in EFT through all three stages, and what additional interventions are necessary to help a couple not only cope, but grow around ADHD.

When: May 18th-19th, 2023


Where: 136 East 24th Street 2nd Floor, New York, NY 10010

Detailed Schedule TBD

Price: Full time agency, active or former military, VA employees - $275; Early bird member fee - $405; Early bird fee - $435; Member full fee - $435; Regular Fee - $475


1. Become familiar with the symptoms of ADHD and the way the ADHD brain functions.

2. Learn to recognize the manifestations of ADHD in the couple’s dynamic and its impact on romantic relationships.

3. Help partners externalize the problem and understand the role ADHD has in their cycle.

4. Recognize primary emotions typical in couples impacted by ADHD.

5. Learn to work towards de-escalation while weaving psycho-education and

normalizing information into EFT interventions.

6. Learn to work through all three stages of EFT when ADHD is present, and

what additional interventions can be helpful and resourceful to the couple.


Alexine Thompson-De Benoit


Alexine is a clinical psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and ICEEFT Certified EFT Supervisor and Trainer in Switzerland. Over the years she has developed a passionate interest in ADHD and how to recognize the signs of an ADHD-impacted relationship. While following the powerful EFT map, Alexine helps couples develop compassion for each other and a create a deeper understanding of how ADHD impacts their ability to connect with each other.

Ben Kneubühler


Ben is a psychotherapist, sexologist, and ICEEFT Certified EFT therapist in Switzerland. Beside working with couples, for many years he has been running therapy groups and coaching sessions for clients diagnosed with ADHD. Ben's passion in working with couples and individuals is nurtured by the manifold capabilities of people with ADHD and their beautiful contributions to the diversity of our world.

ADHD resources (for therapists or clients):

Presenter Information: 

Alexine Thompson-de Benoit

Ch. De la Charrettaz 10, 1094 Paudex, Switzerland

+41 79 960 9252

MSc in Psychology (Switzerland), M.S. MFT (US), EFT Trainer

Ben Kneubühler

Rothstrasse 54, 8057 Zürich, Switzerland


MAS in Psychotherapy, Certified EFT Therapist and supervisor


"The material was GREAT! I love the presentation and discussion of this topic as it affects so many!"

"The videos were so helpful-- I loved the process dialogue of how to interact with couples at these difficult moments. Having more tools and modeling of the process to help our couples impacted by ADHD would be most helpful."

"I loved this ADHD in couples. I feel like there could have been an afternoon portion on this ADHD - to really practice how to introduce ADHD in the cycle that works for both non ADD partner and the ADD Partner..loved this training and the presenters."

"This was very helpful and it came at perfect timing when I was feeling that my work with certain couples was hitting a wall where someone may have some symptoms of ADHD or a DX and we were not addressing it enough. Thank you I feel more confident and curious to bring this more into the room and in our work explicitly. It feels like a big relief to have the insights you provided both clinically and personally."

"Alexine and Ben not only helped me understand why I have been getting stuck in couples sessionswith ADHD, but validated how tricky these relationships can become. This training helped me understand how to "weave ADHD symptoms" into the tango along with attachment language."

"This training will absolutely improve future sessions with couples experiencing ADHD within their negative cycles."

"This was a terrific, inspiring training. Thank you so much!"

"Very, Very valuable information! This Training was perfectly organized to the smallest detail. The presenters were certainly experts in the areas of AD/HD and EFT. The information presented was eye-opening and watching the videos made the information come alive. Thank you!"

"This was one of the most engaging and informative training events I've been to online. I really appreciate the respect paid to the existing knowledge and experience of the participants. I learned so much about how my own ADHD has affected relationships, how to recognize and address ADHD in my professional couples work, and a whole bunch of counter-transference content I need to mull over for a while!"

"This was one of the most organized, thoughtful and well done online training events I have ever attended. The management of the tech, the digestibility and applicability of the material from the way it was presented, the sincerity and engagement of Alexine and Ben and the pacing with well timed breaks were awesome."

"Thanks for the informative, practical, interactive, energizing, thought producing, warm and inviting atmosphere!"

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