EFT Externship

  • 11 Nov 2020
  • 9:00 AM
  • 14 Nov 2020
  • 5:00 PM
  • Online using Zoom (BAA HIPAA Compliant)
  • 31


  • Available until October 1, 2020
  • Registration allowed until 3 weeks prior to event. Must provide documentation.
  • Registration ends 3 weeks prior to event. Must provide documentation.
  • For those who attended a previous externship and would like to attend again.

    *Note: priority given to participants from the greater New York area. To make the training engaging and experiential, number of attendees is limited.


ONLINE Four Day Externship in Emotionally Focused Therapy

George Faller, LMFT and Zoya simakhodskaya, PH.D 


Introductory Level

Through a combination of lecture, videotape, observation of live interviews and exercises, participants will learn to identify the basic stages and steps of Emotionally Focused Therapy and to help couples, individuals and families recognize and de-escalate problematic cycles of interaction.  Participants will also learn to help couples create or restore the emotional bond between them once the negative cycle, and the attachment needs that drive it has been understood.

Learning Objectives

Day 1: Introduction to Couple Distress, Attachment Theory, Process of EFT

  • Describe the nature and causes of emotional distress from an attachment perspective

  • Describe basic attachment theory and how it informs the EFT model

  • Describe the systemic and experiential elements of EFT

  • Identify and understand change factors involved in a couple moving from distress to recovery

  • Identify and describe the nine steps and three stages of EFT

  • Describe and demonstrate the basic empathy skills that are central to the therapeutic process in EFT

Day 2: Assessment, Alliance, Stage 1

  • Describe and demonstrate assessment skills in EFT

  • Describe and show how to create a therapeutic alliance using empathic attunement, validation, acceptance, and genuineness

  • Recognize the emotional responses that maintain the relational distress in each partner

  • Recognize and illustrate how to frame the negative cycle emphasizing attachment needs

Day 3: EFT Interventions and Change Events, Stage 2

  • Define and demonstrate use of the basic EFT interventions for working with emotion

  • Define and demonstrate the use of RISSSC to heighten emotional experience

  • Explain and show how to facilitate interaction between partners by using enactments

  • Define and describe the three change events in EFT (de-escalation, withdrawer re-engagement, and pursuer softening

  • Describe and demonstrate the skills of accessing, exploring and deepening emotion and facilitating acceptance

  • Recognize and transform therapeutic impasses

  • Demonstrate an ability to shape key bonding events that redefine the relationship as secure

Day 4: Becoming an EFT Therapist/Attachment Injuries

  • Define and explain attachment injuries from an attachment theory perspective

  • Define and explain the steps toward resolving attachment injuries, creating forgiveness

  • Explain affairs from the perspective of attachment theory

  • Illustrate an understanding of the repair of attachment injuries, fostering healing within and between each partner 

  • Describe an EFT approach to managing comorbidities such as depression and sexual dysfunction

WHEN: Wednesday-Saturday, November 11-14, 2020.

WHERE: Online using Zoom (BAA HIPAA Compliant)


TRAINERS: George Faller, LMFT and Zoya Simakhodskaya, Ph.D

with Elana Katz, LCSW, LMFT

COORDINATORS: Rachel Goldstein and Sarah Trance



is a licensed psychologist and certified EFT therapist, supervisor and trainer. She has a full-time practice in Chelsea, NY with adults and couples, specializing in cross-cultural and bilingual population. In addition to her psychotherapy practice, Zoya has many years of experience providing crisis intervention in a psychiatric emergency service and continues as a voluntary faculty at NYU School of Medicine. Zoya trains EFT therapists locally, nationally and Internationally. She is particularly interested in intersection of couples therapy and sexuality.



is a retired Lieutenant of the NYC Fire Department, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in New York and Connecticut and an Approved Supervisor for AAMFT. He is the founder and president of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy. As an EFT Trainer, George teaches several classes at Ackerman Institute for the Family and is the director of training at the Center for Hope and Renewal in Greenwich, CT. The experience George brings to the EFT community is vast, as he works as a marriage consultant and conference leader to the US Military, FDNY, Wall Street executives, and trains therapists across the U.S. and abroad. Specializing in trauma, EFFT, and self-of-the-therapist issues, George is committed to bringing EFT to underprivileged populations and pushing the leading edge of EFT.



is a senior faculty member at the Ackerman Institute for the Family in New York City and a certified EFT Supervisor and Trainer. She presents frequently on family therapy and collaborative divorce, including EFT trainings in Israel, South America, Australia, and across the Midwest. She has a particular interest in understanding and addressing the impact of marginalization on family relationships in the therapeutic process. Elana serves on the Executive Board of the New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy where she is also a founding member. Her private practice is in Manhattan. 



Day 1

9:00 – 10:00 – Introduction to Couple Distress, Attachment Theory, Process of EFT

10:00 – 10:45 – The Field of Couple therapy: The place of EFT; Basics of the EFT Model – Experiential and Systemic

10:45 – 11:00 – Break

11:00 – 11:30 – Role Plays – Emotions, Still Face, Attachment Styles

11:30 – 12:00 – Group Process/Discussion of Role Plays

12:00 – 1:00 – Lunch

1:00 – 1:30 – Group Process Homerooms

1:30 – 3:00 - Theory of relationships – Adult Attachment theory

3:00 – 3:15 – Break

3:15 – 4:15 – Overview of the process of change  - Stages and Steps

4:15 – 4:45 – Role Play – Demon Dialogue

4:45 – 5:00 – Group Process/Discussion


Day 2

9:00 – 10:45 – Live Case Consultation

10:45 – 11:00 – Break

11:00 – 11:30 – Group Process/Discussion

11:30 – 12:00 – Stage 1 - Assessment and Alliance

12:00 – 12:30 – Role Play – Assessment and Alliance

12:30 – 1:30 – Lunch

1:30 – 2:00 – Group Process – Homerooms

2:00 – 2:30 – Stage 1 Interventions

2:30 – 3:00 – Role Play – Attachment History

3:00 – 3:15 – Break

3:15 – 4:15 – Stage 1 (steps 3 & 4) – attachment needs, tracking cycle

4:15 – 4:45 – Role Play – Reframing the Cycle

4:45 – 5:00 – Group Process/Discussion


Day 3

9:00 – 10:45 – Live Case Consultation

10:45 – 11:00 – Break

11:00 – 11:30 – Group Process/Discussion

11:30 – 12:00 – Role Play – Tracking Pattern

12:00 – 1:00 – Lunch

1:00 – 1:30 – Group Process – Homerooms

1:30 – 2:30 - EFT Interventions and Change Events – Stage II

2:30 – 2:45 – Role Play – Matching Affect

2:45 – 3:00 – Break

3:00 – 4:00 – Positions in Pattern – Withdrawers

4:00 – 4:30 – Role Play – Withdrawer Re-engagement

4:15 – 5:00 – Group Process/Discussion


Day 4 

9:00 – 10:00 – Positions in Patterns – Pursuers

10:00 – 10:15 - Break

10:15 – 10:45 – Role Play – Pursuer Softening

10:45 – 11:00 – Group Process/Discussion

11:00 – 12:30 – Stage 3, Special Topics, Attachment Injuries, Trauma, EFT with Individuals and Families, Addiction, Abuse, Affairs

12:30 – 1:30 – Lunch

1:30 – 2:00 – Group Process – Homerooms

2:00 – 2:45 – Becoming an EFT Therapist, training flow, community development – Group Discussion

2:45 – 3:00 – Break

3:00 – 3:30 – Role Play – Positive Cycle

3:30 – 4:00 – Group Process/Discussion/Final Q&A

4:00 – 5:00 – Group Wrap-up/Saying Good-bye 


We provide a limited number of seats for discounts on students, clinicians who work in agencies providing care to underserved or marginalized populations, active or former military mental health professionals and VA employees. 

If you are registered as a student, agency clinician, military or VA employee, you will need to verify your status prior to the event to gain your discounted entrance. Students must be full time and provide an official course schedule for verification

Early Bird Price: $1195 - available until October 1st, 2020

Full Fee: $1295 

Full time agency, active or former military, graduate students, VA employees: $650 - registration closes 3 weeks prior to event.

Part time Agency Workers: $750 - registration closes 3 weeks prior to event

Repeaters: $700 - registration closes 3 weeks prior to event.

For those who attended a previous externship and would like to attend again

Suggested Reference Materials for Study:

The following books are recommended for those who would like to study in advance of the externship.

  • The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Creating Connections, Third Edition, Susan M. Johnson (2019)
  • Becoming an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist: The Workbook, Susan M. Johnson (2005)
  • Emotionally Focused Family Therapy, Furrow, Palmer, Johnson, Faller, Palmer-Olsen (2019)

Terms of Participation

Externship participants are required to have the training and educational qualifications to legally practice as a professional mental health practitioner or be in formal training to be a professional mental health practitioner. Participants must be familiar with and abide by professional and legal confidentiality requirements regarding all client information shared in the training.

Certification in EFT is offered by ICEEFT based on completion of all requirements and demonstrated competence in the model. Completion of training does not guarantee competence or certification.

Enrollment in this training constitutes an agreement to hold harmless New York Center for EFT, and all presenters and trainers from any and all claims, actions, and judgements, including all costs of defense and attorney’s fees incurred in defending against the same.

Participants agree not to record any part of this training in any format (audio, video, or visual) and understand that anyone recording the training may be asked to leave immediately without refund or compensation. Personal written notes of non-confidential material are permitted.

Disclosure statement: There is no conflict of interest or commercial support for this program.

Cancellation Policy:

If cancelled 30 days before the start of the event, fee will be refunded minus $100 administrative fee. After that date, the fee is non-refundable. You can attend the next available EFT Externship through NYCEFT after paying $75 transfer fee.

CEU Certificate: available following course completion at at no cost to participant through R. Cassidy Seminars. Application Pending.

CE Contact Hours: 28

Sarah Trance and Rachel Goldstein are coordinating this EFT Externship and can be reached with questions, comments, or concerns at: Sarah Trance  -;  Rachel Goldstein -

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