Quarterly EFT Seminar: Challenges of Blamer Softening, a Change Event in EFT

  • 16 Sep 2011
  • 5:30 PM - 7:30 PM
  • Training Room at Birch Family Services at 104 West 29th Street at 6th Avenue, Third Floor.


  • NYCEFT members receive a 20% discount!
    Fee includes $2.00 service charge.
  • Fee includes $2.00 service charge. $60 at the door
  • Students receive a 50% discount. $30 at the door.
    Fee includes $2.00 service charge.
  • Students who are NYCEFT members get an additional 20% discount!
    Fee includes $2.00 service charge.

NYCEFT Quarterly Seminar

Challenges of Blamer Softening, a Change Event in EFT

When a couple has de-escalated, they often feel so much better, believing therapy has been successful and is over.  But until each one is able to reach for the other from a softer place, they remain vulnerable to relapse and disappointment.  Furthermore, for permanent restructuring to happen, the more withdrawn partner needs to be able to re-engage in the "dance" and the more critical, blaming partner must then reach toward the other from a vulnerable place.  Presenters plan to discuss the process and challenges of the important change event, "blamer softening," and to show taped segments from sessions with two couples, one which achieved an apparent but "false" blamer softening, and one where the blamer actually softened.

Husband and wife therapist team, Parker Stacy, LPC and Mary Stacy, LCSW will present.  George Faller, LMFT will be the discussant.

Presenters and Discussant:

Parker Stacy, MBA, LPC and Mary E. Stacy, LCSW are certified EFT therapists and approved supervisor candidates who specialize in couple counseling.  Mary also runs EFT psychotherapy connection groups.  Their private practice is located in Greenwich, CT. 

George Faller, LMFT  is a marriage and family therapist and certified EFT trainer, supervisor and therapist. He is also a Lieutenant in the NYC Fire Department and has extensive training in working with traumatized couples providing post-deployment retreats for military couples. He trains and supervises clinicians in EFT in the U.S and abroad. His private practice is in NY and CT.

Seminar has no registration limit - please come and register at the door.

For more information contact Quarterly Seminar coordinators: Zoya Simakhodskaya, Ph.D. at or Katherine Stavrianopoulos, Ph.D. at

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